Clear is kind, the delicate dance
If you are a leader, you might have read Brene Brown’s fabulous book, Dare to Lead.
I was listening to a podcast of hers and I felt like she called me out again!
‘To not give people feedback, to not be truthful, to not do the hard coaching that we have to do as leaders, because we don’t want to hurt people’s feelings is kind of bullshit. We are hiding behind that to minimize our own discomfort. And there’s nothing more devastating for people than not getting feedback. When I don’t give you feedback for growth, it’s almost like I’m saying to you, “I don’t believe that you can get better, or stronger, or be a better leader. It’s not worth my time.” And that’s hard.’
Ouch! She certainly is clear!
I’d love to hear your thoughts on this. How do you dance between being clear and kind when offering feedback?