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The willingness to change your mind

I’ve been re-visiting Oscar Trimboli’s great book, ‘How to listen’. In chapter one, he states, ‘Listening is the willingness to have your mind changed.’ It got me thinking about the importance of listening when we are offered feedback.Read more...

Deliberate Feedback

Recently I was interviewed by Rita Cincotta for her fabulous podcast, The Deliberate Leader.Read more...

Relationships Matter

I once coached a CEO and she was incredible!  I know she was incredible because I also coached four of her Directors, who all told me how incredible she was.  I asked her ‘What’s your secret?’Read more...

Does the Feedback Fitness metaphor work for you?

Most people refer to a rather unpleasant sandwich when it comes to well-known feedback frameworks or models.  If you are not familiar with it, the idea is offer ‘negative’ feedback within two slices of ‘positive’ feedback.  It’s gone stale.Read more...

Feedback: Detailed or Big Picture Thinking?

When it comes to feedback, do you love discussing the details? Some people love details. They want to go into the nitty gritty in their feedback conversations. They offer highly detailed feedback and want to receive highly detailed feedback. They believe clear is kind, and so are EXTRA clear! They leave no stone unturned when it comes to providing feedback.Read more...

Finally. A new feedback model

Today I received a LinkedIn message from a leader today: ‘I am interested to hear about the Feedback Fitness model. The 'feedback sandwich' seems to have been eaten and not been as great as was once touted, so would like to unpack what takes its place for effective feedback.  Cheers, Nick’.Read more...

Waiting for the perfect moment

If you are aiming for perfection in your feedback conversations —good luck! Feedback conversations are often messy and imperfect. Your armour gets in the way! Emotions complicate things.Read more...

A Checklist: Useful Beliefs about receiving feedback

How you think about receiving feedback supports your feedback-receiving behaviour and holds it in place. If you believe that receiving feedback is dangerous, a threat or something to avoid, that thinking will result in you trying to avoid feedback—and you certainly will not be seeking it out.Read more...

The Feedback Hangover

I had an interesting conversation with a current coaching client this week. She described receiving unexpected feedback and how it ‘hung around’ and clouded her thinking for a fortnight. In fact, it really bothered her!Read more...

How ‘Feedback-able’ is your potential team member?

Recruiting the right person to the role and to your team is so important. Will they be a good fit to the culture, the existing personalities and do they have the right approach to learning?Read more...

Feel Good Feedback

How often do you ask for feedback, and what is your intention in receiving it? While it’s useful to receive feedback, you don’t need feedback to feel good about yourself.Read more...

The Power of a Pre-frame

As shared in previous Newsletters, the Feedback Fitness model is made up of three distinct stages.Read more...

Clear is kind, the delicate dance

If you are a leader, you might have read Brene Brown’s fabulous book, Dare to Lead.Read more...

Is the feedback useful?

How do you decide if feedback offered to you is ‘positive’ or ‘negative’?Read more...

What's getting in the way of your feedback conversations?

Are your beliefs about feedback interfering with your feedback conversations? Your beliefs about feedback hold your feedback behaviour in place. When it comes to the word ‘feedback’, what immediately comes to mind for you? Your childhood experiences, early work experiences, feedback from teachers, coaches and peers all impact your current thinking about feedback. Think back to your very first job, what was your very first workplace experience of feedback?Read more...

Is fear of emotions impacting your feedback conversations?

Often, it’s not the feedback we are fearful of, it’s the emotions that we experience before, during and after feedback conversations we are trying to avoid. We are apprehensive about feedback conversations because we are afraid of how the feedback might make us (or the other person) feel.Read more...

Awkward Growth Spurts

This Christmas break I discovered Canadian author and poet, Danielle LaPorteRead more...

The Future of Feedback

As we head into 2024, let's take a look at the future of Feedback.Read more...